What we can learn from Japonisme
What we can learn from Japonisme
I felt compelled to tell you about a book I read recently – Japonisme, by Erin Niimi Longhurst. I can say with conviction that it has made me think about my life differently, and I would urge you to read it too.
The blurb defines it as “a Japanese-inspired guide to living a happier, more fulfilled life” and I found it to be all of that and so much more. It helps us to find ways to understand ourselves; our hearts, minds, bodies, and habits, and learn how to tune into each element and allow them to support us.
It’s a very easy read, with the author taking us through simple steps by which you can challenge your perceptions in life and view things in a different way.
Firstly, Erin takes us through the concept of Kokoro – namely, the heart and the mind. She talks about Ikigai – the purpose. It quite literally translates, rather beautifully, as “the reason for being.” She then delves into the beauty of imperfection and impermanence. The Japanese have a beautiful word for this – Kintsugi, meaning “joining with gold.” It is the ancient art of restoring broken pottery with gold – embracing flaws and making them beautiful.
Isn’t that just the most beautiful philosophy? And a great example of a mindset shift that Erin focuses in on within the first chapter. When we are working through our challenges and shadows, what we are doing is opening the light into our path. We are creating solutions by assessing the problems and not leaving them thinking they’ll go away. The more we confront the matters at hand, the more we grow.
Chapter 2 is called Karada and focuses on the body. Erin takes the time to discuss ways in which to nourish the body, not just with food, but with nature, through things such as the art of flower arranging, Ocha (tea ceremonies), Onsen (bathing in hot springs) and calligraphy – mindful, artful practices that allow you time to appreciate the things that you have and truly be in the moment.
In fact, this whole book is about taking things in your life and creating a realm of peace and contentment with what you have, appreciating everything.
This might surprise you, but Ikebana, the ancient art of flower arranging – was traditionally something Samurai Warriors did before going into battle, as it helped them to focus and gain clarity on what was ahead. Nowadays, it’s still used by many people to help induce a meditative state in which you are connecting with your inner feelings in order to truly understand the present moment. It’s not just the process itself that has meaning, but the flowers and plants used too, as they all have unique symbolism. For instance, bluebells are given in gratitude, camellia represents longing, daffodil symbolises respect, irises good news, peonies bravery...so it’s more than just designing a visually beautiful arrangement, it’s curating a heartfelt message too.
I really enjoyed when Erin mentioned that in calligraphy, the most common subject that is captured is the zen circle, which can represent not just the shape itself, but also the vastness and void of the universe. This is a great example of perception – such as the glass half full analogy. Some find contentment where others may find a void and lack of connection.
She finishes this chapter by discussing Shukanka; the art of positive habit forming. Changing for the better by considering how to incorporate new learnings into your daily life.
This Japanese proverb represents the idea that everyone falls down sometimes; your job is to keep going and climb back up, developing the resilience needed for your greater good.
As you can see, only is this book about Japanese culture, but it provides a line of conduct for life. It brings us back to the roots of the things in our lives that bring us happiness, joy and a certain sense of wellbeing and wellness.
One section I found particular fascinating, was her discussion on love, in which she shares that there is the koi (romantic love) versus the ai (non-romantic love). Koi goes in one direction and is rooted in infatuation, whereas ai is all-encompassing love, unconditional and ever flowing. It is a mutual level of agreement of the heart and soul, in which each party always wants to give to and appreciate the other person, thus resulting in much more give and take.
What I found fascinating about love in the Japanese culture is the confessional, cards on the table nature of it. In the occidental world you might have someone bring you a box of chocolates, but in Japan they also come with an honest proclamation – especially around Valentine’s Day - of I love you, what’s your answer?! And then an agonising – and romantic! - wait to receive it.
Another element of Japonisme that really appeals to me is the reflection and remembrance of those who have passed away. They are deeply and fondly embedded into the lives of the living, with the Japanese respecting and embracing their ancestors, taking their legacy, and helping it improve the lives of them and their children. It’s a beautiful way to celebrate the circle of life and all those who have gone before us.
The concept of Fureai kippu – in other words, social currency -is another thing that resonated deeply with me. Think of it as a bank of credits in terms of acts of service you have done within the community. It could be helping an elderly neighbour buy groceries, mowing someone’s lawn, offering to babysit for someone so they can run an errand and so on. There is a bond formed between the generations and that brings in more support to the society in general. You are counting on one another – after all, no man is an island. Isn’t that beautiful? I am all for the idea of community, as that is what I am building here at Otentikcare – building a community in which everyone feels welcomed and supported.
I truly recommend you add this to your reading list and soak in all the wisdom it has to offer. Ultimately, we all want to create a life that serves us, not just have it so we are serving life and going through the motions. That begins with the recognition and gratitude of everything around us – from our ancestors gone, to the new flowers blooming in front of us. It’s appreciating the journey we are on and everyone around us, as well as the people coming after us and the legacy and traditions that we will leave imprinted on the world. And, of course, building our beautiful community by looking after not just oneself, but one another too.
I would be fascinated to hear your take on this book so please do get in touch and let me know what you think and whether you have taken on any new perceptions or habits as a result.
